Why Dress Modestly?

So, we promised you this article and we have delivered. I consulted a friend who has a few brothers and here are some things they hate about immodest outfits and how they feel when girls dress immodestly.

"Honestly, when we see a girl dress immodestly it disgusts us a little, at first. It says that she doesn't respect herself and wasn't brought up to." 

Translation for us women:

Respecting ourselves is, clearly, a big part of our attractiveness as women. Nitpicking our appearance until we hate it is not respectful, to us or God.

"We'll give a girl who is modest a second look."
 

Translation:

So dressing modestly is more attractive than dressing immodestly.

"You don't have to be Taliban modest, though. Like wearing floor length skirts and long sleeved baggy shirts in the middle of summer, that's over the top ridiculous."

Translation:

Fingertip length shorts are ok. Leave the bootie shorts on the rack, and T-shirts over tank tops.

Guys' brains are wired differently than girls. We've all heard it. But we never take to heart how true it is, otherwise dressing in a way that is modest would be on our minds more often. Society has a "politically correct/we don't want to make anyone feel weird," mindset. If dressing immodestly is weird and awkward for our guy friends, why don't we worry about them?

Don't pull the "not my problem, they think what they want to think," card. We as women have a responsibility to call men to a greater level of purity and Godliness. They, in turn, must keep their standards high so we can maintain a level of chastity and honor of God in how we dress.

So, what have we learned today? Modesty is not only glorifying God with our bodies, but more attractive to holy, Godly men. Men, who in the long run, will call us to deepen our relationship with Christ and purity for our husband. If we don't find and surround ourselves with men who have the same beliefs and love for God we do, we will end up chipping away at our spiritual pureness and beauty, and not realize how attractive a relationship with Christ is.

God bless!
~R.A.

(Summary of no-go's)

1. Bootie shorts? Nuh uh.

2. Yoga pants/leggings? Nope.

3. T-shirts vs. Tank tops. T-shirts all the way.

4. Crop tops? Bye bye.

BYE!

Modest is the Hottest

Hey guys! Long time no blog!

As you know, Layna and I have been pretty busy (we clearly haven't neglected Instagram) so blogging was pushed to the back burner. But I noticed the other day, that as much hate as we get on our pro life/traditional marriage posts, we've gotten much worse on our modesty posts. Why is that?

We (Layna and I) have deduced that it is a result of our backwards, overly sexualized society. Short shorts? When did those become cool? When my grandma was 15, you could go to jail for wearing a bikini! So, what happened?

Somewhere in there, God was removed. He's been taken out of schools and homes. The two places where he should be the center of everything. We removed God, and replaced it with our fallen human nature, hence the increase in divorce, decrease in the amount of material used for clothing, and overall, a terrifying prospect for those who desire to glorify God by dressing modestly.

Layna believes there are so many opinions on modesty, its crazy trying to figure out what modesty really is. And she's right. But anyone who is committed to dressing modestly knows its value. If you think you're dressing modestly but you're not quite sure, check these off to see if you could rock the modest runway!

1. Place your thumb in the hollow of your throat (that little space that seems utterly useless) and the rest of your hand flat against your chest. If your shirt is lower than your pinky (or you bend over and see anything) its time to grab a tank top.

2. Skinny jeans and shorts. They're a tough one, because as the name implies, they're skinny. But if you can't fit two of your fingers in between the waistband and your leg, then be safe and go for a slightly larger size. Jeans are acceptable virtually anywhere, and if you have a pair that is loose enough with just the right look, you could pull them off for church. The shorts are an absolute NO GO for church, and if they're shorter than mid thigh, its time to say, "bye-bye!"

3. Heels. Why do you think Barbie struts them in every outfit we ever played with? Certainly to not to attract anyone! (*cough* sarcasm *cough*) Heels scream, "LOOKLOOKLOOK!" That doesn't mean don't ever wear heels. Heels are perfect for special occasions and the right pair will make you feel like Cinderella before twelve o'clock. But when you do, make sure you're either wearing a dress or a skirt that's long enough (point four). Also, make sure they're comfortable. In my opinion, blisters that stick around for weeks aren't worth a night of fun.

4. Dresses, skirts. Raised with a father who has a lot of respect for women, I can tell when something is too short, too tight, or too low. Refer to point 1 for the "too low" factor. Too tight? If a celeb would be seen wearing it in the tabloids, then stick with your gut and find something else. Who wants to wear something that had to be plastered on anyway? (Hint* Not. Me.) Too short? if you can't bend over, its out. If your fingers go past it, its out.

5. Leggings. Not pants. Not jeans. If you don't have a top that goes low enough, then don't wear it. I feel so awkward seeing people on the street with leggings and a t-shirt on. And for Mass, unless you have a tunic or a dress going over them, leave your leggings home.

6. Church clothes. We've been invited to a wedding between Christ and his Church. Would you show up in skinny jeans and sneakers at a wedding? Of course not! You'd dress your best and be respectful. Don't wear to church what you'd wear to hang out at with your friends.

7. Wearing anything, I always ask myself, "Would dad say no?" Your dad should be the second most important man in your life (God first) until you're married. He loves his little girl, and wants what's best for her. And if what's best means grabbing a different dress, so be it. Respect his decision and move on.

8. No one should be able to tell what color your bra strap is. Period. Grab a cardigan or a sweater as a little cover up, especially during the summer months at church.
*Extra questions at bottom*

That's all we have for now, and with our schedules, I'm thinking maybe bi-weekly updates could work? Just a thought. Sorry for the super long post, and we'll be back next time with what GUYS think of modesty. God bless!
~R.A.

Additional questions
8. If I knew I was going to meet Jesus today, would I wear it? Am I honoring the creation that is my body with this outfit?
9. Could this lead anyone else to sin?
10. Would I want my future spouse to see me in this?
Bible verses
1Corinthians 6:20
Proverbs 31:10
Proverbs 31:30
1Timothy 2:9-10

Purity of Heart

The purity of heart required for love is achieved in the first place through union with God in prayer. When God's grace touches us, this also produces a path to pure, undivided human love. A chaste person can love with a sincere and undivided heart.

When we turn to God with a sincere intention, he transforms our hearts. He gives us the strength to correspond to his will. (YOUCAT question 463)
~R.A.